I have worked in a college/university working with teenagers in higher education who have experienced a variety of hardships, including cyberbullying, assault, anxiety and depression.
I’m very interested in how patterns within family systems can repeat if not addressed.
My approach is to be informal but maintain an understanding of how your family shaped you today by using systemic working methods where wider constructs are acknowledged for you, understanding the person that surfaced after years of developing patterns which were set between generations.
I work at a charity that supports people who have loved ones with substance abuse problems. I am always mindful of your process so I follow you, making sure to be sensitive and understanding for them in the therapeutic room.
My past experiences include being on the Creative Counsellors’ Club which includes how to work effectively in a therapy room; I wrote an article about creative means for therapists for my previous club’s magazine (Creative Counsellors Magazine) where it talked about bringing sense into this convoluted process called ‘therapy’.
I am also aware of clinical labels such as BPDs (Borderline Personality Disorders), NPDs (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and SPDs (Schizoid personalities), they can bring up traumatic memories or shame when labelled as disordered according to their diagnosis.
With Drop The Disorder movement, we are trying to make mental health support accessible by not labelling anyone with any disorder!
I am a member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapies (BACP), as well as The National Counselling Society (NCS)
I came into counselling after many years of interest, and the time wasn’t quite right until seven years ago when I took my first steps to become a therapist. It has been the most rewarding thing that I have ever done and it was hooked from the very first moment.
It has been a privilege and an honor to learn Counselling and Psychotherapies that allows me to support others. I understand what it is like find oneself in difficult times; by pulling on this experience daily, you can help your relatedness with clients! Because of accumulative traumas throughout my life, making me a “real” person for them to work or connect with- which makes counselling more effective than if they were working with someone who did not personally know what it’s like living through such experiences
I have worked in a college/university working with teenagers who have experienced a variety of troubles, including; Cyberbullying, Assault, Anxiety, Depression, Troubles with education, Stress, relationship issues, Family problems, Adoption, Homelessness, Learning difficulties, Sleep problems, Drugs, Alcohol, Substance misuse, Sexuality, Religion, Money worries, Gambling, OCD and Addiction.
I have counselled clients who have suffered difficult childhood and I have a real interest in how patterns in families repeat if not addressed.
Whilst I work in an informal relational way, I also work with an understanding of how your family constructs may have impacted you in the here and now. This is called a systemic way of working. I work by acknowledging wider constructs to help you understand how that shaped the person you are today.
This way of working can sometimes lighten the load as it uncovers origins in behaviour that allow a deeper self-compassion. You may even discover that family trauma remained unhealed transgenerationally and you may wish to alter things for future generations. I have a special interest in this area.
I have worked for a charity supporting those who have loved ones that are exposed to Drugs, Alcohol and Substance misuse. I understand the wider trauma that this can cause. It may be that you experience abuse from your loved one, theft, they may emotionally blackmail you. You may experience loss, grief, shame, anger and blame and you may require support around that.
I have also worked with those who have suffered the bereavement of a child or suffered child loss during pregnancy. You may be experiencing anger, abandonment, resentment and be experiencing feelings of blame. The loss may be impacting your relationships and wider family members. This is a very delicate and testing time and I will sit with you and provide a space for you to grieve in your way. It may be that some weeks you wish to talk about your loss and other weeks you may wish to talk about other matters. I am mindful of your process therefore I follow your lead in a sensitive and empathic way.
I have previously been a member of the Creative Counsellors Club and I have attended sourced on how to work creatively in a therapy room. If your preference is to explore creatively I can support you and work in this way. I wrote an article that appeared in the Creative Counsellors magazine some years ago on how therapeutic craft can be and how for some clients it can be a less traumatic way of exploring and making sense of their process.
I am aware of clinical labels such as BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) and NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and SPD (Schizoid Personality Disorder and whilst I respect that for some such diagnoses may have brought huge relief and support I am also aware of those who have suffered trauma and shame around being labelled.
I am a supporting member of a movement called Drop the Disorder that seeks to make mental health support accessible to all without having to label people as disordered. It’s a very human way to work and relate to a person and their individual story. Again, there is no right or wrong I support you in a way that feels right for you.
I am a member of the BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapies)
I am an accredited member of The National Counselling Society – NCS
I came into counselling after many years of interest however the time wasn’t quite right until 7 years ago when I took my very first steps to become a therapist. It has been the most rewarding thing that I have ever done and I was hooked from the very first moment. It has been a privilege and honour to have been able to learn Counselling and Psychotherapies that allows me to support others.
I understand what it is like to find oneself in difficult times. I pull on this experience daily to help my relatedness with clients. I have experienced accumulative traumas throughout my life and that makes me a very ‘real’ person to work and connect with.
I live in a semi-rural area in West Yorkshire and I love nothing more than nature. I find it deeply therapeutic. I enjoy arts and crafts and when I do have spare time I enjoy creating. I enjoy mandalas and Posca Pens, Crystals, Jewellery Making and Creating decorations. I am a great lover of music and I have found some clients like to work with that in the therapy room as lyrics can be very powerful.
My home is a house with neurodivergent people and that makes it a very interesting home at times. There is always some fact or another floating about or some hyper focussed activity in progress.